by Sue Danbom
Nothing is as unappealing as desperation.
I used to listen to a radio program called "Dateless and Desperate." It was about people (okay - mostly women - but it runs both ways) who were so desperate to attract a mate that they actually repelled the opposite sex after the first encounter. They tried too hard. It was like they put out an alarm pheromone that made the other party run for the hills. It happened time and time again. And with each occurrence, the level of desperation increased.
Job search in this economy can make people feel desperate. I am counseling a friend who asked my opinion. He saw a job posting that appealed to him. He carefully customized his resume and cover letter and sent it through the human resources representative as directed. Upon second review - he noticed that the job posting listed the title of the person that this position would report to. His question was should he go ahead and leap frog the HR rep and go straight to the hiring manager.
"I would!" I said without hesitation."Last time I looked, HR reps weren't making hiring decisions." (Screening decisions, yes. But not hiring decisions.) He asked the question because he heard from friends that when they tried that tactic, they were rejected because they did not follow process. Those who are hiring are being pounded with so many desperate candidates that they are taking more exception than usual to such actions. (And they've never been fond of them in the first place.) In this economy is there any way to win?
So my question is considering the above information...what would you advise? Through HR as instructed - or focusing on the hiring manager? And if your tactic is to the hiring manager - how would you make the approach? (Direct or indirect?) How would I sound cool, calm and collected and not so desperate?


