Have you ever interviewed one of those candidates who has a great resumé, appropriate experience and a personality ruined by arrogance, rudeness and a complete disregard for other people?

They might have the right non-social skills, but do you really want to put them in front of your client and have them say, "(insert your name here) sent me?"

How did you deal with them?

Did you take a page from Dr. Randy Pausch's Last Lecture and say, "It's really too bad people perceive you as arrogant..."?

Did you decide to cut to the chase? That's when you say something like; 

"I am sure this isn't nice for you to hear, but you are so difficult to be around that I can't put you in front of my client...?

Or, did you refer them to a book like Miss Manners or Choosing Civility?

There's even a book for people like us who have to deal with this issue. It's called The Civility Solution: What to do When People Are Rude by Dr. P.M. Forni.

Dr. Forni says we have a duty to those candidates to help them learn.

 "We teach others how to treat us by how much we are willing to endure from them," Forni says. "It is better not to endure even micro-indignities if they are really bothering you. Find the strength of character to confront that person in an assertive, nonaggressive way and say, 'This is how I feel when you say that, when you do that. I really wish you didn't.' If you keep everything bottled inside, that person will do it again."

Not only will they ruin their own careers, they'll make life more difficult for the other members of the industry they approach.

What do you think? Do you try to help the rude ones or do you just send them packing?